The Chronicles Of Baylea: This may accidentally evoke a whole slew of pissed off middle aged women.

Ok, so this morning, on my 3 minute drive to work, I got to hear about this.

Holly Hill is an australian author, who wrote the book "Sugarbabe"

It's about how to negotiate infidelity in your relationship.

Her mentality is that

"It's better to walk the dog on a leash than let it escape through an unseen hole in the back fence."

(Your not dating a pet, it's a person)

"One of the main things that I have learned is that a woman that negotiates infidelity with her partner is far more powerful than a woman who is sitting home wondering why he's late from the office Christmas party," she says.

(1. making yourself feel in control by deciding "you can break the rules, if you break them my way"

is just a way to make yourself feel in control of your own insecurity,

2. it really doesn't make anyone better than that poor lady sitting at home in ignorant bliss.

Both people have obviously bigger problems...)

Her argument, self proclaimed credible by her psychology degree,

is that scientifically we are programmed to sleep around-

Yes, as are most creatures trying to ensure their genetic survival,

-and that men are just programmed to cheat.

Also, that monogamy is out dated, based on her science.

Her book was a recap of how she spent a year as a payed mistress to other men.

Lately, everyone has taken sides on the holier than thou marriage argument,

"nothing is sacred anymore"

No,

Love is not sacred anymore.

that is the problem.

without love- why would you even make any kind of commitment?

Marriage is the way many people choose to honor their love.

making a visible, tangible commitment to someone is an important way to show that.

I'll be honest-

I never saw any reason to get married.

It just held no value to me,

because of this kind of mentality.

When you take something "sacred", and make it so disposable,

what do you expect.

Again, I'm not knocking anyone's beliefs-

I had hippie, open minded parentage,

And perhaps I am too open minded,

I really have no problem questioning or rethinking anything.

I can agree that free love is a very romanticized idea,
We've all been there for a moment.
Or not.
Either way, realistically, it's not fulfilling.
It's hollow.

Now, don't assume I am bashing or uplifting anything-

I'm just stating facts.

To bring this back to science-

Yes we are designed to pass on our genetics.

Go look up any principle in social biology-

that entire study is based on the importance of sex from every perspective.

However.

We have emotions.

We have ideals.

The level of importance in monogamy in a relationship

is the whole REASON people get in relationships.

otherwise, everyone would be with everyone.